| America's New "At-Risk" Child | |
| The Paradox of Privilege | p. 3 |
| Why Kids Who Have So Much Can Feel Empty | p. 8 |
| Why We Can't Afford to Trivialize the Problems of Privileged Kids | p. 12 |
| The Not-So-Hidden Mental Health Epidemic Among Privileged Youth | p. 16 |
| The Magnitude of the Problem | p. 18 |
| Don't Kids "Grow Out Of" Adolescent Angst? | p. 24 |
| Don't Kids from Affluent Families Get All the Help They Need? | p. 26 |
| The Toxic Brew of Pressure and Isolation | p. 28 |
| Achievement Pressure | p. 28 |
| Isolation from Parents | p. 30 |
| Why Parents' Good Intentions Are Not Enough | p. 33 |
| Why Money Doesn't Buy Mental Health | p. 37 |
| Money Doesn't Make Us Happier | p. 38 |
| Allison: How Affluence Can Get in the Way of Emotional Development | p. 41 |
| Materialism: The Dark Side of Affluence | p. 45 |
| The False Promises of Materialism | p. 49 |
| Why "Retail Therapy" Is an Oxymoron | p. 50 |
| Materialism and Unhealthy Competition | p. 52 |
| Happiness Is an Inside Job | p. 53 |
| How the Culture of Affluence Works Against the Development of the Self | |
| What Is a Healthy "Self"? | p. 63 |
| Kids With Healthy Selves Are Ready and Able to "Own" Their Lives | p. 70 |
| Kids With Healthy Selves Can Control Their Impulses: "I'm the Boss of Me" | p. 75 |
| Kids With Healthy Selves Can Be Generous and Loving | p. 81 |
| Kids With Healthy Selves Are Good Architects of Their Internal "Homes" | p. 86 |
| Tyler's Story: Whose Life Is It Anyway? | p. 88 |
| Knowing What Really Matters and What Doesn't | p. 93 |
| Different Ages, Different Parenting Strategies | p. 95 |
The Magic Years-Ages
2. to 4 | p. 99 |
Masters of the Universe-Ages
5. to 7 | p. 104 |
How Am I Doing?-Ages
8. to 11 | p. 108 |
What Happened to My Kid?-Ages
12. to 14 | p. 113 |
Working on the "Real Me"-Ages
15. to 17 | p. 120 |
| Parenting for Autonomy | |
| How We Connect Makes All the Difference | p. 127 |
| Know Your Parenting Style | p. 129 |
| Do As You're Told: The Authoritarian Parent | p. 129 |
| Do Your Own Thing: The Permissive Parent | p. 130 |
| We Can Work It Out: The Authoritative Parent | p. 131 |
| Cultivate Warmth to Protect Emotional Development | p. 132 |
| Good Warmth: Acceptance, Understanding, and Investment | p. 133 |
| Bad Warmth: Overinvolvement, Intrusion, and Parental Neediness | p. 136 |
| Understanding Why Praise Is Often "Bad" Warmth | p. 141 |
| Avoid the Damage Inflicted by Criticism and Rejection | p. 146 |
| Discipline and Control: The Tough Job of Being the "Bad Cop" | p. 153 |
| Firmness: Being Clear About Your Authority | p. 154 |
| Monitoring: "Do You Know Where Your Children Are?" | p. 156 |
| Containment: Letting Your Kids Know When You Mean Business | p. 158 |
| Flexibility: Knowing When to Skip the Showdown | p. 159 |
| It's Easier When We Start Early (But It's Never Too Late!) | p. 161 |
| The Difference Between Being "In Control" and Being "Controlling" | p. 162 |
| Why You Have to Stand on Your Own Two Feet Before Your Children Can Stand on Theirs | |
| Challenges to Effective Parenting in the Culture of Affluence | p. 169 |
| Bucking the Tide: If Everyone Is Doing It, That Doesn't Make It Right | p. 172 |
| Holding Ourselves Accountable | p. 174 |
| The Poison of Perfectionism | p. 178 |
| Overcoming Myopia About the "Good Life" | p. 182 |
| Handling the Isolation That Makes Us Vulnerable to Being Bullied | p. 186 |
| The Threat of Divorce and the Potential Loss of "Wifestyle" | p. 191 |
| Samantha's Story: Dancing in the Dark | p. 194 |
| Having Everything Except What We Need Most: The Isolation of Affluent Moms | p. 200 |
| Acknowledging How Very Hard Our Job Is | p. 202 |
| Taking Our Problems Seriously | p. 205 |
| The Fear of Vulnerability | p. 207 |
| The Risks of Staying Unhappy | p. 210 |
| Tend and Befriend: The Critical Importance of Friendships | p. 212 |
| The Distraction of the Work Debate | p. 215 |
| Choosing What We Can Live With | p. 218 |
| Acknowledgments | p. 225 |
| Notes | p. 228 |
| Index | p. 237 |
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