Self-healing through self-parenting, a concept introduced a generation ago, has helped thousands of adult children of alcoholics who are codependent and have conflicts in their primary relationships. Now Patricia O'Gorman, Ph.D., and Phil Diaz, M.S.W., authors of the classic book The 12 Septs to Self-Parenting for Adult Children and its companion workbook, expand the reach of that successful healing paradigm to anyone who has suffered from any kind of trauma. Whether they grew up in a dysfunctional home, were victims of violence, or suffered other types of acute distress, many people struggle to determine the impact of earlier trauma on current adult decision making. O'Gorman and Diaz show how trauma is a driver of dysfunctional behaviors and linked with codependency, and they offer a concise yet detailed resource for survivors and thrivers as well as the professionals who work with them. Through a process modeled after the 12 Steps of AA, Healing Trauma Through Self-Parenting: The Codependency Connection offers help to a broad array of readers (not just those who are ACOAS) by healing the wounded inner core and helping readers reconnect to their inner child.
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| Foreword | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Introduction-Trauma: The Missing Link | |
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| Understanding Trauma and the Codependency Connection | |
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| Identifying Trauma | |
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| Living with Trauma | |
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| The Codependency Connection | |
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| Resiliency and Trauma: Growing Strong in the Hurt Places | |
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| The Neurobiology of Trauma | |
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| The Principles of Healing Trauma and Codependency | |
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| The Self-Parenting Process | |
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| Step One: We Admitted We Have Been Traumatized and We Are Codependent | |
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| Step Two: We Asked for Spiritual Help and Let Go of Compulsive Self-Reliance | |
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| Step Three: We Let Go of Toxic Loyalty and Let Our Higher Power Guide Us | |
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| Step Four: We Made an Inventory of Our Assets and Deficits Regarding Our Trauma and Codependency | |
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| Step Five: We Learned to Forgive Ourselves and Others as a Way to Move On | |
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| Step Six: We Claimed Our Strength and Embraced Our Resilience | |
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| Step Seven: We Became Ready to Overcome Intergenerational Trauma and Codependency Through Self-Awareness and Self-Parenting | |
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| Step Eight: We Left Behind Pessimism and Learned to Become Optimistic | |
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| Step Nine: We Learned to Make Amendsto Those We Hurt | |
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| Step Ten: We Learned to Live in the Present Moment | |
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| Step Eleven: We Sought Through Prayer and Meditation to Improve Our Relationship with God | |
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| Step Twelve: We Learned to Give Meaning to Our Suffering and Live as Examples of Love and Service to Others | |
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| Epilogue | |
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| Appendix-Resources and Websites: When Additional Supports Are Needed | |
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| References | |
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| Index | |
Patricia O'Gorman, Ph.D., a psychologist in private practice in East Chatham, NY, is noted for her work in child welfare, juvenile justice, mental health and substance abuse where she has serves as a consultant to organizations in preventative and clinical strategic planning.nbsp; She has held positions ranging from Clinical Director of a child welfare agency to Director of Prevention for NIAAA, and is a co-founder of the National Association for Children of Alcoholics. nbsp;
Phil Diaz, M.S.W., the executive director of the Harrigan Foundation at Palm Partners Treatment Center in Delray Beach, Florida, is an authority on substance abuse treatment. He is the former CEO of Gateway Community Services, Inc., the largest provider of substance abuse treatment and prevention services for adults, children, and families in the northeast Florida. He is the former assistant deputy director for prevention in the Office of Demand Reduction with the White House Office of National Drug Control Policy, and in this capacity was the lead federal official in the development of national and international drug prevention policy. Diaz is a social worker with more than twenty-five years of experience in drug prevention and treatment, co-founder of the National Association for Children of Alcoholics, and the founding chairperson of the Nation Drug Prevention League. His work has appeared in Women's Day, USA Today, and Focus on the Family. Diaz is the coauthor of The lowdown on Families Who Get High, 12 Steps to Self-Parenting, 12 Steps to Self-Parenting Workbook, and Breaking the Cycle of Addiction as well as numerous articles in magazines including Addiction Today, Counselor, and Recovery.
